Silvina Neder wants women to embrace
their authentic selves and take risks.
Silvina Neder is one of those people who doesn't hesitate. When she sees that her life needs a change, she jumps right in and makes amazing things happen. You might have seen Neder and her beautiful silver curls on Instagram and in campaign photos, helping women embrace their true selves and feel good about who they are. Neder is a model and an actor, but before that, she was a market researcher for 25 years. Her major life changes can help inspire women to take leaps and rehaul their lives, even if they think they are too far down their path to afford any changes.
For 25 years, Neder was a market researcher who opened her own firm, helping companies grow. "In my late 40s, I felt I had given all I had to give and have gotten all I could from my profession," Neder tells It's Rosy. "I deeply felt I needed a change. I spent more than year with that in my mind, outlining a new means of living that would incorporate something that I loved doing. I knew my new occupation would have to do with motivating people and with encouraging people to follow their dreams."
For Neder, making this massive life change wasn't so much about finding the courage to do so, but figuring out what it would be. Her switch to modeling and acting happened naturally, and it all hinged on her hair. To save time and money, Neder stopped colouring her hair and hiding her whites.
"I really wanted to see how silver hair would look on me, and how embracing my natural hair, age, and look would feel. And it felt great. I loved how it looked, and I felt freer and more confident than ever," Neder explained.
But how did this step lead to her budding career? It was the appreciation of other women. "Something deeper happened when my silver hair grew: Everywhere I went people said, 'I love your hair; I love your look.' By that time, I had some pro photos taken for my MR website, and the photographer suggested I try being a natural model," Nader explains. She sent photos to agencies, and her modeling and acting career took off.
"But my main ambition was to encourage people to change, so I used my new acting/ modeling career and my grey hair as an inspiration to pursue dreams and embrace who we really are." Through Neder's Instagram account, she opened a dialogue about being authentic, and embracing what both life and time bring.
For women who would like to embrace change but are scared to, Neder has some sage advice. "Scary? Of course it is. Very. It wouldn't be exciting if it weren't scary. Just embrace being scared, and do it. Nobody knows what life will bring, so why hold onto something we know is not working for us anymore?"
Aside from giving you the enthusiastic push you need to follow your dreams, Neder also has some practical advice when it comes to re-hauling your life and putting your finances at risk.
"It is crucial to have your economy quite in order. By this I don't mean to have massive savings in order to afford a long time without making money, or pursuing to find the 'Big Idea' that will rock the market. I mean to reduce the expenses and our needs to the minimum." By downsizing your life and cutting back on spending, you give yourself the freedom to create and dream without being overwhelmed by bills.
That said, after you downsize you also need to force yourself to start. "I would use the Spanish saying "quemar las naves" here, which means "no way back." You have to commit to real compromise. If you start a new project, you have to surrender. Anything can work if you dedicate time and mental energy to it."
Seeing how Neder's new life path is about helping women love who they are, the thing that she loves most about her grey hair is the permission it gives her to embrace her age. "Being grey means saying to the world, I am this age and I am loving it. I don't want to be young; I have already been, and I have accumulated experiences which make me happy now. I am lucky to be where I am," Neder explains. "My favorite part about growing older is knowing myself. Looking backwards and seeing all I am is a consequence of the everyday choices I have made." Wise words to live by.